The In-Between is a collection of essays written from inside one of life’s most disorienting and formative seasons — the pause between where you were and where you are going.
These essays follow an arc. They begin in the early days of uncertainty and move slowly through awareness, unlearning, rest, recalibration, rebuilding and emergence. Each one builds quietly on the one before it.
If you are new here, begin at Essay 1 and follow the journey in order. You do not have to read them all at once. Come back when the season calls for it. And if you are already in the middle of your own in-between — you are exactly where you need to be.
Welcome.
The Essays
1. Almost Two Years in Between: What I’ve Learned About Waiting
Some seasons don’t announce themselves. They just settle in — and stay longer than expected.
2. The Honeymoon Phase of a Pause (and When It Fades)
When the first excitement of freedom eventually gives way to uncertainty, something quieter takes its place.
3. What People Ask When Your Life Doesn’t Have a Neat Answer
The questions aren’t unkind. They just assume a clarity that isn’t there yet.
4. The Week My Mind Wouldn’t Slow Down
Stillness doesn’t always arrive as peace. Sometimes it arrives as noise — every unresolved thing, suddenly audible.
5. The Weight of Not Knowing What Comes Next
There’s a particular quality to this kind of waiting — not the kind with an end date, but the kind that just keeps going. This is about learning to be in it.
6. Letter to the Tired Self
There is a difference between stopping because you have given up and stopping because you finally understand that you need to. This is about learning that difference.
7. The Discomfort of Going Slow in a World That Rewards Speed
It isn’t peaceful, at first. It’s disorienting. And then, slowly, something else.
8. What Success Looks Like When Nothing Is Happening
The old measures stop working in a season like this. What takes their place is quieter — and harder to explain.
9. The Thing About Failing Is That It Keeps Happening
It doesn’t get easier to sit with. But somewhere in the repetition, something shifts.
10. Letting Go of Who I Thought I Should Be
Old identities don’t disappear quietly. They hold on. This is about what it takes to finally loosen their grip.
11. Small Habits That Kept Me Sane in the Pause
When everything feels uncertain, the smallest actions become surprisingly important. This is about the ones that held.
12. Routines That Gave Me Structure When Life Felt Chaotic
Structure doesn’t solve uncertainty. But it makes it liveable. This is about building just enough of it to get through the day.
13. The Things That Count When Nothing Feels Like Enough
In a season like this, movement is harder to see. But it’s there — in smaller places than expected.
14. The Long Education of Being Knocked Back
There’s no clean lesson in a setback. There’s just what happens after, and after that, and after that.
15. The Small Things That Hold
Not solutions. Not breakthroughs. Just the quiet, ordinary things that make an uncertain season bearable.
16. Boundaries I’m Setting for My Next Chapter
Not everything from before belongs in what comes next. Working out what to leave behind is its own kind of work.
17. The Things You Only Learn by Staying
It isn’t always comfortable. But something happens in the stillness — quietly, without announcement.
18. Building a Life That Actually Fits
After a long pause, the old shape of things doesn’t always fit anymore. This is what it looks like to start over — deliberately, and without a blueprint.
19. When the Next Thing Starts to Come Into Focus
It arrives quietly, and not all at once. But there’s a moment when what’s next starts to feel possible rather than distant.
20. The Season You Keep Trying to Outrun
There’s a particular exhaustion in trying to move past something that isn’t finished with you yet. At some point, the trying stops. This is about what comes after.